Decided i need to make a change and do something about it

[kate H]

Hi Guys,

Havent written for a while, am in a bit of a state at the moment.
My HUge insecurity issues and the fact i just cant seem to trust has meant i have lost the man i love.

I just cant get a grip, constantly think he will cheat on me, still convinced he is seeing his ex wife, am laways chekcing his phone,facebook account and then kick of if i see something i dont like the look of.

I have decided to bite the bullet and have some therapy as i cant go on like it any more.

I am really hoping it is going to helo but am also very dubious of spilling my life story as there are somethings that have happened in my life that i have told no one, not even my mum who i tell most things.

I desperately want him back and love him so much but know i need to change my inner self.

I feel so low and crap right now, am barely eating, sleep is distubed and just feel like my life is over ad ive got to start all over again

xx

[challangerchris]

The therapy sounds like a very positive move for you. Good luck with that.

Jelousy is something really hard to deal with, but can be devastating on a relationship, hopefuly your ex will see you want to change and don't like the fact you act jelous over his freinds/life etc...

Never say never - u've done the hardest thing by admitting you are like that, and if you want to change then i'm sure you can with the help from therapy.

[Bill]

I would rather take this from another viewpoint -

You blame yourself but I can't see why you should. You think the fault lies with you but I can see none.

If a partner has nothing to hide, why should they object to being open?

To gain trust is to be open and when you love someone alot you offer patience. You don't behave defensive and run away. When trust is won, there's no reason to distrust.

I'd show devotion to the one I truly love so are you sure you're the one who should change??? I'm really not so sure.