I've copied this selection of replies from the "online cheating" thread because they're all relevant to my question......
I truly do believe that some people (men and women both) believe that as long as it's KEPT online then it isn't technically cheating!
There are unfaithful people in the world! That is the truth of it!
some will cheat and others wont and what it comes down to is truth, honesty, faithfilness and trust.
it boosts men's ego's?
There are those that would cheat, they would cheat anyway regardless
If they are "flirting" with someone else whilst being in a relationship, whether its on or offline...it's not right.
flirting is just another way of creating options
And this statement which is the most thought provoking....
Not all men cheat hun, still a few decent guys out there .
So what is a "decent guy"?...but before you judge, consider the following first.....
A man and woman meet. They marry but the woman suffers a mental illness which is far more serious than the man realised so she could never offer the things a loving wife would normally provide in a reationship. However, the man is afraid to live alone but also cares too much about his wife. He knows that if he left, she would be put in a home which would make her very ill again. However, her illness makes him feel very lonely and he yearns for the "normal" loving things she's never been able to accept or offer.
What would a "decent" guy do? Stay by her because he cares or put her in a home to suffer alone?
Would a "decent" guy be selfish and put her in a home so he could be free or would he sacrifice his needs but still look for love?
Would a "decent" guy leave and face his fears of being alone or allow his anxiety to stay safe?
Would a "decent" guy cause pain and suffering or pretend all is ok for her sake?
Would a "decent" guy willingly accept love from another woman or refuse due to a conscience and for the sake of both women but resign himself to forever being unhappy?
Now answer......what is a "decent" guy? If you answer as I suspect you would answer based on the selection of replies above, a "decent" guy wouldn't be me which really would just confirm how I feel about myself which is why I find it difficult to accept anyone could miss me, let alone love me!