Re: horrible person, horrible mum
Coni
Firstly mate, you are NOT a bad parent, nor are you going to drive her to drink or drugs.
I have been through this with Ben and he is only 10 and a half. It was like, i would say day and he would say night. I felt like everything i said or did was the opposite of what he wanted. He would take the most awful tamtrums where he would punch and slap himself so hard. This would set me off shouting like an idiot for him to stop it, which just made the whole situation alot worse. This went on for months and the least wee thing would set him off. Like you, i blamed the whole situation on me, my parenting skills, my lack of patience in dealing with it blah blah blah.
Coni, it doesn't matter how good a parent we are hun, kids do seems to go through these phases where nothing we say or do is right. Try to replace the nagatives with positives. If she says i hate you mum, then you say well that's fine but i love you. If she goes into a tantrum then simply walk away and go to another room and try to stay calm. Try not to argue with her either because that is just giving her the attention she will be wanting at the time.
It is very difficult mate but things will improve.
Ben is fine again now and it definately was a phase.
Stop blaming yourself because she will realise this and milk it mate.
I really hope things improve soon for you
Big hugs
Lisa
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