Well as i'm a member of a different kind of forum, I thought this may be a good idea. Sorry that this may be so long, but i'm not sure about much.
A few weeks ago, my fiance and me talked about our relationship. She basically isnt sure that she wants to be with me of not. We've lost a special connection, and we have talked about my behaviour over the last year or so.
I have been in a right state since, feeling absolutely down about myself and life.
Then yesterday, I decided to look at depression. Its effects on a relationship. But this was because of my Fiance, not me, who had suffered about a year ago.
But when I started reading the information, I suddenly realised that I wasnt reading about my fiance, but I was reading about me. Ths totally shook me up, and I just started crying.
I realised that over the last year or so, so many of the symptoms of depression were how I had been feeling and acting. I've had no energy to do anything, I havent been excited, i'm always tired, yet I cant sleep when I am. I dont have major problems falling asleep, but when I wake up, thats it. I cant get back to sleep. The I get tired during the day, but I cant sleep.
I've been really aggitated, cant relax, cant focus on thing.
I'm now so scared that I have ignored other peoples warnings, their advice. I've thought that I was ok.
So many of the things that Kel wasnt happy with started to make sense. I'm a moderator on a weather forum, and spent alot of time on it. But I couldnt work out why. I knew it was to do with my obsetion with snow. But then I realised. My dad had a stroke about 7 years ago. My favourite memory of him was waking me up in the night, by throwing a snowball at me. I adorred that moment. But after his stroke, we lost out closeness. And my memories just kept hurting me, and so I may have just put them out of my mind.
Theres so many things, but with everything else that is going on, i'm now also worried about losing my fiance. Some of the feelings she has, was what I had when she was ill.
But I cant tell her what i'm scared of having, in case she thinks its an excuse.