WillyB,
Here are the notes from my son's diary. It might look little bit disjointed. Ignore it. He calls them as golden guidelines.
Hope it is going to help. I have also asked him to get off internet. Last thing you need is anlysis that could paralyze you.
Concentrate on what you have to do now.
Esskay
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GOLDEN GUIDELINES
a.Anxiety distorts reality and leads to further doubts.
b.Don’t take anything seriously when you are anxious and under stress.
c.Eventually reality prevails.
d.Live in the present and let nature take its course of growth.
e.Don’t worry about the past to create problems out of it and don’t be anxious about the future, which is nothing but projection of past.
f.Use past experiences to better your future.
- When mind, body and soul come together nothing is impossible. I can solve any problem.
- All problems are opportunities in disguise and stepping stones to success.
- Forgive yourself for any kind of immediate and/or unnatural reactions to any stimuli which generate negative thoughts and negative feelings.
- Don’t feel frustrated if you feed into negative thoughts.
- Don’t be obsessed with any (bad or good) thoughts.
- Constantly renew the tools to discard ineffective /wrong ones and add right tools that are effective.
a.Don’t feed into pseudo knowledge or science which is illogical.
b.Don’t try to solve illogical things with logic.
c.Ignore the thought if it crops up to make it insignificant. And say “SO WHAT” for the counter arguments.
d.Don’t create thoughts to your disadvantage.
e.Don’t analyze thoughts to your disadvantage by splitting hairs.
f.Don’t force thoughts out. Don’t restrict other thoughts to stop irritating thoughts.
g.Instead fill normal activities which produce normal thoughts.
- When negative thoughts come you can choose to think what you want to think rather than succumbing to those negative thoughts.
- Talk to an expert if it bothers.
- Don’t replace any problem by creating another problem.
- No problem is permanent and everything is transient.
- I am the master of my mind; not a victim who fears my own mind.
- Don’t allow discouragement from people who do not mean to help and give unsolicited advice.
- Sublimate negative thoughts through reality or your own choice.
- Do not use your body to express your frustration.
- Be decided. To be undecided is also a decision. Indecision is not equivalent to be undecided.
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