My wife has suffered with Anxiety for 7 years and I am at my wits end knowing what to do for the best.
It first reared it's ugly head after I had recovered from a bout of depression and she was practically a prisoner in our home for a year. Due to her own grit and determination she did manage to get out of the house and return to work.
The problem is we appear to have hit a brick wall preventing any further progress, there are still issues despite her being able to get out now, we are not able to plan anythibng such as holiday or day trips as the build up increases her anxiety, when we do go out it is planned with military precision as I have to know at the drop of a hat where the nearest toilet is as one of the symptoms is a belief that she needs to go to the loo. My wife also has anxieties around money, appearance.
Talking to her tonight she feels she is right back at the beginning again, this makes me feel so desperately sad, we used to do so much together, now we live a parallel existence. I really don't know where to turn for more help, she has a CPN who just says she is coping, she won't take medication because of the side effects. Because of other non related conditions she has to go to hospital occasionally, this is a traumatic experience with tears and anger, no matter how much we try to explain nobody seems to realise that communication goes a long way to alleviate her fears. She has to go back to hospital soon and I am dreading it.
I have tried to be with her every step of the way but because of a couple of spells of depression I have found that I need to get out more, this makes me feel selfish as she can't get out t enjoy herself.
If I am completely honest my patience with the anxiety is running out, I love my wife and have so much admiration for her determination, I have cried at times when she has phoned me to tell me she has achieved something but I feel I am mourning the life we used to share together. At times I have questioned whether I can manage to continue as we are but I hold on to the thought that she is still the same person with this awful monster dictating how she leads her life.
I have asked several times for help with practical steps that I can make to help her leap that next hurdle that would perhaps allow both of us to go away for a break together. Nobody seems to be able to give me any suggestions.
Darren
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