Hey all, I am new to this site, although not new to panic attacks!
I will try to remain as brief as possible so as not to send anyone asleep, however it is a lot to explain so I would appreciate anyone, even if its just one person to take time to read
I had my first taste of panic attacks when my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 2005. He died a short time after and from that moment on I had severe panic attacks and didnt leave my house for 6mths. I had some bereave,ent counselling and after a further 3-4mths I learnt to control them to a certain extent and they were fewer and farther between and I was once again able to leave my house..
Exactly a yr to the day my dad died, my mum was diagnosed with Cervical cancer. We learnt soon after that the cancer had spread to other organs and the outlook wasnt too positive. Back came my panic attacks with a vengence. They were bad, but this time somehow (and i have no idea how) I didnt lose complete control and was able to still venture outdoors. However, it was a different story 7mths later when my grandad was rushed to hospital. As my mum was so poorly with her cancer I took her place of next of kin and had the shock of my life when I was pulled aside and told my grandad had days to live as they had found her was in the later stages of terminal lung cancer. I remained at his bedside daily and he passed away 11 days later with me holding his hand. 2 days before his funeral his sister literally dropped dead of a massive heart attack & 10wks later my mum passed away with me holding her hand. That moment was by far the most severe panic attack i had ever had and i was treated by the nursing staff with oxygen and whatever else it was they gave me. 2wks after the funeral my uncle was found dead in his flat, the post mortem revealed he was riddled with cancer.The panics remained with me and for 7mths I could not leave my house. I then begun counselling again and soon regained some control although have never been able to leave my house unless im with someone and even then its somewhere never far from my house - usually just the local corner shop or my little girls pre-school.
So anyway I thought i was doing well until 4 wks ago. My sister in law who has just turned 27 was diagnosed with renal cancer. The cancer has already spread and the outlook is rather bleak right now. My panic attacks are worse than ever - I havent left my house for 2wks and my little sister has been taking my daughter to school. They are completely different attacks this time - I get severe vertigo, i cant focus straight and i seem to lose the swallow reflex! My mouth completely dries up and I cant even sip a drink because i cant seem to swallow. They last longer than they used to and even when the worst of the symptoms have passed I feel im constantly in a 'fog of panic'. My daughter has her 5th birthday party in 2 wks time which has been booked for months in a local hall. Im so worried my panic attacks are going to prevent me getting there?
As you can probably gather my attacks seem to be triggered by death/cancer.
Any tips/advice would be so gratefully received right now...