Re: Wishing i was someone else...
Hi Dan,
Your self-esteem is rock bottom. I used to feel the same as you, my opinion of myself was very low. And like you, I would beat myself up about it. But when I learned about my illness and how it affects me, my image of myself changed. I wrote down a list of all the thinks I liked about myself. I then wrote down a list of all the things I did not like about myself. The things I did not like about myself completely outweighed the things that I liked. But then I asked myself, of the things I didn't like about myself which ones were affected by my illness. I then started crossing out the ones that my illness had an impact upon. When I finished I realized that most of the things I didn't like about myself was because of my illness. The list of positive things now outweighed the negatives. I now realize that it is not me that I disliked but my illness. And that is the point, it is often our illness that has created our negative behavior not the person inside. If we overcome our illness, we release the person we truly are from their shackles. So now I use that to motivate myself to overcome these dreadful afflictions we all suffer. I no longer hate myself, I only hate my illness.
Take care,
John
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I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
Bene Gesserit Litany Against Fear.
From the book Dune by Frank Herbert