where to turn???

[Sax]

Hi all,

Sorry to all, I've neglected the forum for a while!!!

I just have a question, when you are low where do you feel comfortable turning to? I find if my friends have been in this situation then I feel they don't need negativity around them, I was referred for cournselling in May and apparently will get an appoint in New Year and as for family well I have at last told my Mum I am suffereing depression but I cannot suddenly overnight start talking to someone I don't connect with.

Therefore, what does one do???

I know there is the forum which I really should utilise more, there is the chat room which I have to say having been in lots recently in and out it doesnt appear to be frequented like it use to be so I really find it hard where to turn!

Sorry to be low at this time of year but I believe most of your will appreciate that the stress aspect distorts the concentration the most!!!! Therefore Christmas is just another day!

Any advice or is it just to offload here?

Many thanks

Sax xxx[8D]

"Friends are the like the stars......you can't always see them but they are always there!"

[trac67]

Hi Mate,

Just to say you know where I am if you need a chat, just pick up the phone anytime ok, we are mates and mates are always there for one another.

I think christmas is stressful for everyone, and although we try to keep smiling sometimes it can be really hard.

Keep your chin up mate and ring me ok.

Take care

Trac XXXXX

'Live your life with arms wide open, today is where your book begins, the rest is still unwritten'

[vernon]

Hi sax, sorry u havnt been feeling to good latley and I agree chat dont seem what it was I pop in regular but leave as not many seem to use it. But this has happened in the past and it will pick up again. Hope you feel a bit better soon and pm me anytime u want a chat i usualy have MSN on. Take care. Vernon

[Karen]

Hi Sax

Sorry you are feeling low and I understand how it can feel worse at this time of year.

I don't have anyone near to me that I ca n talk to either and I use the forum, as well as private emails to talk. This really is my lifeline.

Good that you've told your mum how you feel but I agree that it is unrealistic to suddenly start confiding in someone you don't connect with.

As for friends, how would you feel is one of them wanted to talk to you? I bet you wouldn't think they were bringing you down or that you wouldn't want to listen. So why not give talking to them a try? I bet they would like to help.

We are here for you too.



Karen



It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.

[alexis]

Hi Sax, Im often on msn if you want a chat, we used to talk and then just seem to stop, I have been fortunate to have had councelling and didnt have to wait as long as you are either but i always benefit from talking to people who are in or have been in the same boat.
Christmas is hard, I think you just have to read a lot of the posts to see that, but feel free to buzz, the difference between us of course is,,,,,you are better at charades

love from Alexisxx

If I help one person today it was worth getting up.

[sillymoo]

hiya sax sorry 2 hear ur feeling low.im always here if u wanna chat uve got my number and im on msn quite alot.uve been there 4 me when ive needed someone so id love 2 be there 4 u 2.hop u feel better soon hun take care and remember keep smilin
luv n hugs
mooxXx

[Sax]

Thank you so much for your replies everyone,

You know though when you feel ashamed and don't want to face things ...........hmmm well this rings true right now, both stupid, cowardly and running away!!!! Daft, doesn't solve a thing, oh I know the answers however I beleive when you are not feeling negative tis hard to remember or want to remember how you did feel. Thats right though, you shouldn't go back for the sake of going back but right now I want to explode and say

'why can't I cope?? why do I feel like this?? why does this have to be now?? why can't I just snap my fingers and get over it!! feels pathetic, feels cowardly, feels failure, feels like I had choices and made the wrong ones, feels like i have sunk so far I can't pull myself up now even when I want to! Feels like I have no contol and all I can do is try and survive each day let alone 'happy new yr' pmsl that is just words right now!

what the hell has happened, I'm very scared and very frightened of how I feel right now!

Sorry but I needed to offload some feelings cos gonna explode otherwise

love Sax xxxx[8D]

"Friends are the like the stars......you can't always see them but they are always there!"

[alexis]

Hey sax, tis good to offload,we do know how you feel, get it off your chest,
Dont even think about the New Year yet,just take each day as it comes.
We are here for you, depression is a nasty thing, it will get better I now have mine under control, just need sort the anxiety now, take care and be kind to yourself.xxx

love from Alexisxx

If I help one person today it was worth getting up.

[south]

Hiya Sax
You are a loving caring person, when i came to this site you helped me out loads and i cannt thank u enough for sticking with me at that point, im here 4 u if you ever wanna chat, take care
Love
South
xxxxxx

[Piglet]

Hi Sax,

Sorry you are feeling down at the moment.

I think rather than hide it from friends, where appropriate I would open up. It's amazing how much better you feel for getting stuff off your chest. When the thoughts are out of your head they don't seem so horrible.

Also are there any little changes to routine that you can do - sometimes doing things slightly differently to the normal way helps!!

I know having a good walk can break a mood for me (I don't mean to suggest that doing one particular thing can change your life but lots of little changes can go a fair way to helping).

Take care

Love Piglet xx


"Supposing a tree fell down, Pooh, when we were underneath it?" said Piglet.
"Supposing it didn't," said Pooh after careful thought.