social anxiety plz respond

[uk guy]

i have this problem thats playing on my mind all the time.when somesones talking to me i get really anxious and i cant concentrate on what they are saying to me.somone can be talking to me for like 5 mins and afterwards i wont remember a thing they said to me.people think im not listening to them when they talk to me.i am,i just cant concentrate cos of my anxiety.does anyone else have a similar sort of anxiety?please respond.

[nomorepanic]

Hi and welcome aboard the forum.

Try these previous posts....

Talking issues: problem with conversations

Panic during conversations?

Depressed again - scared of people



Nicola

[LottaLagg]

You may have an attention disorder too. Ake you doctor to be check for ADHD. Good luck!

[8D]
Lotta

"One Oneness One"

[ItWillPass]

I could have written that post myself. I have the same exact issue. When people talk to me I start to feel light headed, and sometimes even nauseous. I get so focused on trying to look normal that often I do not hear what the person said. I have just been trying to expose myself to more people, and go up to people to talk, lol just for practice. When someone is talking I try to hold on to main ideas and repeat them in my head, just so I get the basics of the conversation. I know im not much help, but I think what you are experiencing is pretty normal.

"I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance, never settle for the path of least resistance... When you get the chance to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance"

"This too shall pass..."

[Piglet]

This is very common - I too have experienced this.

When your general anxiety levels drop this improves too.

Love Piglet xx

"Supposing a tree fell down, Pooh, when we were underneath it?" said Piglet.
"Supposing it didn't," said Pooh after careful thought.

[mico]

This can be very common with all kinds of anxiety dissorders since your mind finds it difficult to take anything seriously other than what you're anxious about.

However, social anxiety, I find, can be much more subtle in its delivery. I've suffered both social anxiety and general anxiety, but the anxiety generated from social situations throughout my life has been different to the anxiety generated by me general anxiety.

Social anxiety can be very much ingrained into habit, and even with very little 'noticable' anxiety you can still very much notice the effects, such as a lack of concentration.

Although debate will continue to fire up on the subject, I would say that 99% of the inability to concentrate is created by your own inward thinking. This is the dialogue that presents itself in your mind, the one that's saying 'I should be listening right now, why arn't I listening?'. This is the voice that goes over and over, mocking your self-esteem and generall killing any enthusiasm to just be yourself.

Since this dialogue is ticking over inside you like a madman let loose in a playground, there's no longer any room to take in what's going on around you. You're in a state where all you can concentrate on is what's going on inside, whilst everything outside gets slung to one side. Once you understand this concept you can slowly start chiseling away at the internal vocalist and begin to appreciate the things that surround you.

Don't know if this helps at all, but it's food for thought.



mico



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[pfidelus]

Have you tried acupunture? I tired few secions and it did work for me. Also yo u can get good herbal medication from Herbal Inn (UK)

[kirgray]

Hi guy

I get this a lot!. I am quite an outgoing girl-but when a conversation starts up my eyes go blurry, I cant focus, I go light headed and the most horrendous pressure creeps up my head!. Urgh its awful- then I jus want to run and escape-but funnily I never do run-but I do find it hard to keep a conversation flowing.

Do you have any remedies for coping with this?

This may freak people out and am slightly concerned have thought this but when theres alot of people around me I just want to scream shut up!!
its quite bizarre! anybody advise please?.

K X

[uk guy]

thanks for the replies.because of my concentration/anxiety problems ive had to give up college which is a huge dissapointment.does anyone know if taking medication can cause anxiety to the point where you cant follow a conversation?

[Meg]

Hi

Could you not postpone college for a season rather than give it up altogether which would give you time to work on your issues and go back renewed.

Colleges are very understanding about these sorts of issues

What sort of medication ?

Meg
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