Hi all,
This is going to sound quite strange and I have done so much searching for similar conditions and symptoms and can't seem to find anything. My girlfriend and I have been happily together for nearly 3 years and the entire time we have been together I have been the unfortunate cause of intimacy issues. Every single time we make love I have an overwhelming fear of impregnating her (This is quite an understatement given my irrationality) We use as many forms of bc as possible and i still can't get past it. Every time we make love I wear a condom and she was on bc but now chooses to use VCF, a type of spermicidal film that the woman inserts 15 min before intercourse. On top of all this I also pull out before ejaculation holding the base of the condom so as not to cause any slippage or accidental contact. Sorry for the graphic description. To add to my phobia my love is about as irregular with her menstrual cycle as you possibly can be. She can miss periods all together (which doesn't help my phobia at all). Sadly, after we moved in together about a year ago she became pregnant, how I'm not sure b/c I used a condom and pulled out there were no holes in the condom, but I decided to support her decision of an abortion. It was truly a difficult decision but I felt my support was what she needed since we only told our closest friends and we couldn't bring ourselves to tell our parents. This has only compounded my phobia and it has since gotten worse. She is currently a week late and all that i can think of is: Is she pregnant? I constantly ask her if shes ok, does she feel like she is going to start, do you think your going to start. She reassures me that this is normal for her and that everything is fine. We haven't had an accident of any kind and I feel like a complete a$$hole for hounding her and possibly bringing up old wounds. I love her more than words can express and i feel like I'm driving a wedge between us. Any thoughts on combating my fears and putting us on track to normality.