Hi everyone,
I need some advice regarding my therapy and feel terrible for feeling the way I do, but it wont shift so I want to know if there is something that I can do without losing my help altogether.
I started counselling what seems ages ago after the problems had got so bad that I had a complete break down... I had waited for over a year and I was seeing a lovely counsellor, I didn't trust her at first, part of my issues.. but anyway she stuck with me and eventually the rapport was fantastic she could finish my sentences for me and it felt for the first time in my life someone understood... but sadly that came to an end and I then had to wait for my therapy to begin.. I was given a case worker with the MH team and finally I had an appointment to see if I would be suitable to therapy, at the meeting, it was decided that yes I needed therapy and that my problems were so deep rooted that straight CBT would not be enough and so they were going to work with mentalization, a therapy that was first developed for suffers of borderline personality disorder.. I was thrilled finally I was on the road to recovery ...or so I thought!!!
At the meeting I met my therapist and he told me that he would make my first appointment by end of May.. by mid May I had not heard and grew concerned so I called the hospital.. at the appointment he brought this up and said that he had said late May/early June but he had NOT said this he really had said the end of May and he brushed this off as if oh making a fuss over a few days... there was the trust straight out of the window... I did not feel comfortable, I cried as I felt he was trying to drag stuff out in one session and I had to tell him that I did not feel ready to trust him..
Anyway I've not returned but I have made another appointment now, but in my heart of hearts I don't like him.. I don't trust him and I don't connect with him.. I will never openly discuss my issues with him because of this and I don't know what to do..can I ask to see someone else??? what if they say no? does that mean that I take him or have nothing? I am so upset I know I need the help but I feel that this is not the guy for me... and as I do have trust issues as well as a low self esteem it will only build to the point where I get upset by the whole issue.. I did take the attitude that I'm not going back but I need help and I want it ..just not with this guy.. personality clash, his manner I don't know but its how I feel..please advise x