Hi, well as the title says my anxiety is all based around HIV. This is long so please bare with me. Somehow I have managed to convince myself I have it for the following reason - I gave birth to my daughter 5 weeks ago and about 2 weeks after remembered I had used the toilet on the maternity ward and after I got up I noticed a very small amount of blood on the seat. I started to think what if it was not my blood and it was from a HIV+ person and somehow when I wiped myself I managed to get this in to my second degree tear which was stitched. My midwife reasurred me that there would not be a HIV+ patient on the ward, as we are all screened in early pregnancy, so that put that one to rest for me.
Then I remembered that I had used the toilet in the mother and baby room in our local shopping centre at 11 days after birth and have started to panic with this going around my head:
- what if I hadnt looked at the seat properly and there was some HIV+ body fluid on the seat and I managed to get it on the toilet paper and into my tear.
- what if there was something on the toilet paper (which it took from the dispenser)
- what if I had a cut on the back of my leg that touched the seat and I didnt know and I sat on some HIV+ body fluid.
I know all of this sounds crazy and when I talk to friends and family they all say I am worrying myself over nothing. My GP has told me that I would need to sit with my open wound directly on some fluid, which obviously I didnt because this part of my body was over centre of the toilet.
Also I have read that HIV is very hard to contract through sex, but have read that blood to blood contact can cause infection. So my mind is saying what if there was some blood on the seat and if my tear hadnt quite healed would this be blood to blood contact? My midwife has reasurred me that my thoughts are nonsense and again that HIV is very hard to contract.
I am currently taking a course of citalopram and have been on it for 2 weeks and things seems to be getting a little better, but I just cant shake these last thoughts.
My husband keeps telling me I have nothing to worry about, that you cannot catch it from toilet seats and that the virus cannot survive outside of the body, which I have read and know, but it wont sink in!! I then get scared that 'what if' everyone is wrong and in a few years we find out I have it! But, I am too scared to get a test for fear of the result, but my husband, mum and GP have said there is no need for a test as there is nothing to find. The GP has only suggested one to put my mind at rest, they do not think I need one.
Sorry for it being so long, I just needed to get it off my chest. I really need to break this cycle, and stop looking on the internet. x