I was thinking about this today as it's something I've often noticed in peoples posts and I have a theory about it.
Sometimes something will happen or we'll hear or see something that frightens us and we end up constantly worrying about it. As you know, the more you worry about something, the worse anxious symptoms become and yet, oten we find it so hard to stop ourselves.
My theory is that it's based on fear and control. If a ghost appears in front of us, it scares us into worrying about it. We find we can't stop staring at it and I think this is because we're actually afraid to take our eyes off it. While we stare at it we feel nothing bad will happen. We feel in control. If we take our eyes off it, we feel we're losing control over it and as a result something bad will happen because it makes us feel so anxious to stop staring at it.
This is what I think might be happening with worries. If we try to stop dwelling on a worry, we feel we're losing contol over it and something bad will happen because to stop thinking about it makes us feel so anxious.
In a way it's catch 22. A worry frightens us so much that we feel compelled to focus on it but to stop dwelling on it also makes us feel anxious which is how I think we fall into the anxiety trap. It ends up hypnotising us under its spell.
I think there are 2 ways of tackling this...
Firstly, prevention.
If you hear, see or feel something that frightens you, Don't dwell on it otherwise anxiety will snare you in its trap making you feel you daren't attempt to stop thinking about it. One easy way is to find other things to do or think about to prevent it taking hold.
Secondly, cure.
If you find yourself in the trap where you feel you can't stop worrying about something, you then have to force yourself free of the anxious feelings. This means that you do exactly the same as in prevention by finding other things to focus on but it will feel much harder to achieve because you'll already be trapped in anxiety's spell. However, you have to reassure yourself that to stop worrying about it is perfectly ok because the anxious feelings Will gradually subside on their own. You just have to make that leap to prove to yourself there's actually nothing to fear but the feelings of fear themselves and that nothing bad will happen by ignoring a worry. Anxiety is like a ghost. It frightens you into staring at it but if you stop staring, the ghost will feel powerless and will actually melt away if you can force yourself to break free from its hypnotic spell by feeling safe in the knowledge that any anxious feelings will eventually subside.
One other thought regarding worries. I always believe that if you have a worry that you can do something practical to resolve then resolve it no matter how hard it feels because then it's sorted and you then have nothing to worry about.
If though it's something that's beyond your control and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it then let it go because there's no point in worrying about it. It'll only make you feel ill and create symptoms that will create more worries.
Some of us are born worriers but I do feel we can learn to tame our inner beast.
Anyway, just some thoughts.