Hi everyone. I'm really, really struggling at the moment. I posted last night that I was considering going to A&E I was so worried but my partner talked me down. He is being so good but is starting to lose patience with me, saying things like 'you've got anxiety, nothing more, stop asking me questions about it and accept that it's anxiety, not AIDS, not cancer, then you'll be OK'. As if I can just turn it off. I'm scared I'm going to lose him.
The doc has put me on Propranolol for the physical effects of anxiety but they're not helping yet.
I am convincing myself that I've got an uncurable disease or illness. Sometimes it is cancer and at the moment, for the last 4 days, it's been HIV/AIDS. I can't stop worrying about it. Th chances of me having HIV are very slim. I had a boyfriend nearly 8 years ago who admitted to me that he had had STDs. We were safe but I can't say we were 100% safe (often starting without protection). I asked him if I should get tested for HIV and he told me that he had been tested and was negative so I didn't need to worry on his account. I have no reason to not believe him as he was honest about the STDs. He is my only threat of HIV to be honest, I've been with my current partner for nearly 7 years. I honestly havent worried or even thought about this in the last 8 years.
However, I am fixating on this at the moment. Im terrified that, not only could I have it but, that i could have given it to my partner, who is a dad. I've spoken to two AIDS helplines (including Terrence Higgins) and both said same thing - it's highly unlikely to have had it for so long with no symptoms and that it sounds more like anxiety than HIV.
Should I go and get tested for this? My partner thinks I would just then fixate on something else and I think he could be right. However, that is all I'm focussing on at the moment. Also, I'm terrified of having the test. Again, it's the 'what if'. What if that 1% chance is correct and I do have it? So that is causing more anxiety.
What would you do? Would you have the test or accept the advice that you haven't got it?
Many thanks and apologies for typos but I'm using my iPod.