Having a social life/ Meeting people ?

[FRANKIEISBACK]

How have the guys and gals on here coped with the isolation anxiety brings ?

Most of my friends in my age bracket ( late thirties) have long since settled down.

[lfb]

well none of my friend really understand soo i dont see them f i do they only say for a litlle bit....

am finding it hard as i use to be very out going but now ,,,,i feel like no one want to be a round me.... and am to scared to go see people

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[lfb]

hey frankie forgot so say i also feel the time going fast it soo hard wacthing everyone setteling ect... Pm me anytime.

[clickaway]

Good question, Frankie.

I never had that many people around me before, but anxiety has actually helped me try and find new friendships I hope will last longer than the condition!

I had split up with a girlfriend a few months before I got GAD, and a year afterwards had to give up work, so living alone, I found it very hard.

I joined this site a year ago, and have made some friends here that I have met in real life (also away from group meet-ups), although as they live far away, these have been occasional. I am also quite involved in another web site (not to do with anxiety) and have made friends there through common interest and appreciation. Again, distance has got in the way to a large extent, but it has given me greater confidence in the self-esteem stakes.

This year, I have also attempted to socialise more nearer to home on a more regular basis, but I'm finding this a bit difficult. These are pub meet-ups run in the London area, one by the National Phobics Society and one by Social Anxiety UK. I'm currently somewhat anxious at these meets as I think I'm treating them as an exercise to meet people first, rather than share an interest or hobby first if that makes sense.

I also meet up with some people here in town every week who suffer from various mental conditions, but they are more like acquaintances you'd meet in a coffee house.

I don't have a new friend in my immediate locality yet, but I think that will become easier as I gain confidence with others.

Cheers,

Ray
http://www.anxietyrelease.org.uk/

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance.
~Mark Sanders and Tia Sillers

[Karen]

I too have been very isolated for quite a number of years and have one long term friend who lives closeby. However, she is married and has a family and so I don't get to see her much.

Since joining this forum I have made a number of new friends, although distance means meeting up is not practical with a lot of people. I did go to a number of meet ups arranged on here last year and these helped me with self confidence and starting to feel a bit more comfortable speaking with people.

Personally, I think this forum has been such a help to me and I know there are friends here for me even if I don't get to see them in person.

Karen



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You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough ~ Christine Cagney, Cagney & Lacey

[sal]

Hi hun

Totally understand what you are saying and most of my friends are settled down and they did struggle and at times let me down as couldnt understand how i felt but through time they have supported me and whether alone or not have tried not to let me feel out. Obviously at times they have no choice if going out in couples. We are all here to help you hun.

Love Sal xx


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[nomorepanic]

Frankie

I met some new friends at exercise classes and the swimming pool. It is amazing where you can go and start to talk and end up friends in the end.

Nicola

[FRANKIEISBACK]

Do you go to special classes at the swimming pool ?

A single bloke like me, its difficult not to come over as some kind of creep if u know what I mean

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[nomorepanic]

Frankie

I just go swimming twice a week and you get to see the same faces there so you get talking - easy as that.

I met one guy who I got talking to and turns out he was on Prozac so we talked about that and I still see him there and we have a coffee sometimes and a chat.

Just say hi a few times and then people will open up and start talking.

Nicola

[Chardonay]

I am married but do not see any of my friends.
They all desreted me after one spread a horrible rumour so have been alone.
I have one best friend now who I get on great with, but have not as yet met.

Tall dark and mysterious was his name,
magic love and money was his game.

Beauty is a real thing, not just a reflection in the mirror