About a month ago, I went to my OBGYN for a consultation, and I tried so hard to tell her about my fear of being pregnant and told her I felt defective, like I had a chip missing and she basically responded by saying "YOU DO!" to me...I just sat in her office and bawled because I felt like I was crazy or just plain pathetic. NO ONE gets it, they all insist that I am just not ready now, as I am a newlywed and 25 years old, but I know I want kids, I just have an issue with how they get here...I have had a major phobia of pregnancy since I was 9 years old.
I have reccurring dreams and I never manage to come to terms with even being pregnant in the dreams...How can I do that in real life? I have so many anxieties, especially prone to Social Anxiety and Panic Disorder. But this phobia is pervasive and strong in my head, and I cannot shake it! My husband is so understanding, and I so badly want to give him a child that looks just like him because I love him so much!
I am scared most of just being pregnant and the changes to your body, not necessarily the labor aspect so much although that picture has not been painted very pretty for me! It's more for me about how the baby gets here. I am freaked out about having somethign grow inside me, it makes me cringe. I don't feel emotionally or mentally capable, and I feel awful. I actually hope I can't have children. I had an IUD inserted last month that backfired and within two weeks of having it in I was in the ER having it removed because of sharp pains on my right side.
Those sharp pains are back and I have been bleeding for over a month. They mentioned possible endometriosis and I was actually happy at the thought! What is wrong with me, I keep asking myself.
I am an adoptee, through a closed adoption, and was 7 days old when I was adopted. I can't remember a time I didn't know I was adopted, I feel like I have always known...At present time, I have met and carry on a great relationship with my birthmother and have for over 7 years. I learned that she had to hide me from everyone even her father for 7 months until she finally went to the adoption agency to have me. Her own father never knew about me.
That definitely made me see being pregnant as shameful for me personally at age 17 when I learned all of this information through her. But at age 9 I didn't know anything about her, I think maybe it stems from that though, subconsciously somehow.
Any other adoptees with a similar issue? Anybody with an understanding viewpoint, or anyone who shares this fear? Please, I need support, and I would love to give support!
Amy