I wasnt going to post about this, but I feel like I need to get it off my chest, and would love a hug right now.
My friend Connie has stage 4 terminal bowel and stomach cancer. Its metastatic, and the consultant has given her 3 monthes at best. She was to die at home, and has refused chemotherapy, which will add 3 monthes at best.
Her family have got all the bits set up, commode, airflow bed, a great motorised chair that she can control, and Macmillan are coming in every 3 days to deal with pain relief.
Im very close to her daughter. Shes asked me to help care for Connie. I went to change the dressing on her tum the other night, and was professional whilst there, but FREAKED out when I got home. I told her to ring if she needed to, but now Im involved in care (advice, making sure shes clean and fresh, making sure shes eating a little) Im worried that I wont be able to cope, and I really want to help my lovely friend.
I could really do without anxiety beating me right now. It was hard with my mum, but didnt beat me. But it did beat me when I couldnt see my gran before she died. I drank a whole bottle of wine the night I came back from Connies, and felt terrible the next day. and ashamed.
Any tips on how to keep control? I want to be there. I need to be there. Its the least I can do for this wonderful woman. Hugs would go down a treat right now gang x Thanks for listening x P