How do you deal with people who believe if you are shy and suffer from SA you should just make the effort and snap out of it. I sometimes feel really angry towards people.
For example tomorow evening I have to go to a compulsory works event, its a fund raiser which is great but a lot of the night is just standing around talking,my worst nightmare. I mentioned to the boss in a light hearted way that I wasn't any good at that and I don't know many people and she just said 'you should make more effort'. It doesn't take much working out to know i'm shy and yet she just thinks it's entirely my fault.
Also my friend who i've know for 30 plus years is always inviting me to social events usually where I don't know anyone. She couldn't be more different from me as she's outgoing and has numerous friends,yet she doesn't understand why I don't like doing the same things as her. I've talked to her about it but again she just thinks it's something I can get over.
Why can't people understand?
Any advice please