Hi, this is a bit embarrassing, but am I the only woman who doesn't remove their pubic hair? It somehow came up in conversation about six months ago and my boyfriend said he'd never been with a woman that wasn't shaved apart from me. This kind of freaked me out so I asked him if he preferred it the way his ex-girlfriend's had it and he said yes.
Now, my boyfriend isn't the most tactful person in the world and he has apologised SO MANY times since he said this, once he'd seen how upset I got. He thought at the time it was a relatively innocuous statement to make but I've been having nightmares now and again since then.
I just feel like I'm some kind of idiot that doesn't know how to be a woman. Or like a naive little girl. To be honest, it's not my kind of thing to maintain my image anyway, I don't wear make up and I usually forget to shave my legs and armpits, I don't buy new clothes - all just because it doesn't really bother me. But for some reason this really, really has bothered me.
It may seem simple enough to just shave it off but I have this thing where I just CAN'T do anything to my body if I feel like I'm doing it to please someone else. My boyfriend said that attitude sounded a bit childish (although I think I worded it differently, like I would do it of my own accord but not if someone asked me - I think that's what I said) but it's just a pride thing. I really can't do it now, because it wouldn't only be for me, and that would make me feel like I was doing things to please him - I just think I would risk my self esteem if I changed my body in anyway for another person.
I know this all sounds trivial and stupid but this has literally been making me feel awful for six months now every time pubic hair or related subjects come up on tv, with friends, when I'm having sex, anything that reminds me!
So! Does every woman do this apart from me? Is the fact I don't do it weird or does it make me a scruff or anything? Does it make me seem childish or unsexy or anything?
I'm 24 by the way and until this came up was a bit arrogant about my sexiness (just presumed I was whether I was dolled up or in bed with a hangover!) but this has totally crushed all of that!
Thanks and sorry for long post