Yes, I think it could be that I'm distracted. I think things have loosened around there as well, though, because it doesn't physically feel the same. But my friend as said she'll go to pilates with me
I'm not sure if we've got any positions left to try! When my bladder was bad we tried it everyway we could think of to see if we could take the pressure off it.
My bf is sick of me worrying about this. I understand why it seems like a small deal but with not enjoying sex/feeling looser/being distracted during. I feel a bit...whatever the female version of emasculated is. That's why I kept saying I didn't feel like a proper woman. I know these are all womanly matters, so it doesn't really make sense, but I do just feel less of a woman now.
I'll try the pilates and try to stop worrying. At the moment I've just kind of decided not to have sex, which I don't think bf is that pleased about! But I'm so convinced I won't enjoy it that even if we do anything I have told myself so often that it won't be fun that it never is! I've kind of ruined it for myself with my thoughts!