Im lonely, depressed and want to quit Uni

[Frenetic]

Don't let this disease beat you! Fren x

[Spongeballz]

Sometimes Willy people like the ones you described feel inadequate with how they are and deflect this by making other people feel poopy, it's the typical victim/bully cycle, instead of sorting their own lives out they degrade other people.
If you sit next to him in class and stuff, stay civil and polite towards him, but feel smug in the knowledge you're better than him And find some better, more respectful friends, that guy doesn't deserve to call you one
xx

[WillyB]

Thanks everyone, ill try to take your advice. I keep meaning to look into clubs , ill have a look when i get back to uni, im at home for a few days at the moment.

[presynaras]

Uni can be pretty tough and scary and I understand what you must be going through. I have had such fears and anxiety during my uni days. But my advice is don't quit. Eventually uni life is going to turn out the best time you could possibly have in your life. Trust me I missed it due to my nervousness. Don't make the same mistake like me. Enjoy life, let loose and just relax. Good luck

[suroor]

hi , im kind of in a similar situation and i want to quit uni too
i hav to repeat some subjects so im not with the friends i made last year who made it through
i dont know if this helps, but i know that if i was actually loving the course im doing at uni then i wouldnt want to quit so much, aside from missing friends and everything
i do miss them, like im sure you miss yours but, if the bigger picture was good for u then im sure u wouldnt feel as extremely about leaving uni altogether
maybe u should look at what ur doing at uni and ask yourself whether there isnt the smallest excuse in what ur saying now just so u can emotionally justify leaving
sometimes it feels worse to admit a practical and financial mistake than just 'u miss ur friends'
maybe this doesnt apply to u at all, but i figure, maybe ur underlying situation might just be like mine
hope u feel better soon, good luck with everything

[bazbaz71]

Hi Willy,
Been reading your posts and I think that some of these people at your Uni really need to get a life. They are the ones not living in the real world because believe me when (or more likely 'if') they start work they are gonna have to grow up big time. Doing drugs, drinking to ridiculous excess and acting in an immature, disrepectful manner to others is no way to hold down a decent job. They are due a rude awakening. I wouldn't bother telling them this though - they wouldn't understand and to be honest don't deserve a warning! It sounds like you are the one people in the real world will want to associate with, not them (they are treating Uni like an overgrown kindergarten).
In the meantime I think the advice of finding clubs and through this trying to establish a different network of friends is very good. Maybe a part-time job if you have the time to fit it in with your studies? That might allow you to socialise with a different group entirely. Alternatively study as hard as you can in the week and then come home at weekends if that's practical?
Whatever you do it sounds like these people aren't worth being with except when absolutely necessary. Hope it works out for you Willy.
B

[em violet]

im sorry u r going through this, ik how it can feel, ive been in simular situations, the way i try to get through those moments r breath and try to think bout how one day i will have real friends and everything will be ok, im here if u wanna talk

[WillyB]

Thank you everyone, your support really helps and motivates me. Its easter holiday now and ive been at home a few weeks which has been really nice. I hope to go back feeling refreshed and try to push myself to do more things.

Thanks everyone

[Thistooshallpass]

Hello WillyB

Reading your posts really reminded me of my uni days. I moved into a house of 11 girls (big mistake) and nobody liked me. I wasn't into partying or doing shitty small talk and now realise I had nothing in common with any of them. However at the time I was shy and wanted to be liked so badly I was very upset when I found out they all didn't want me living with them the following year. I realise now 7 years later they were all bitches who were bullies and I deserved much better friends

[WillyB]

Hi Thistoo, These girls sound rather nasty. It must have pretty awful living with 11 of them, you really did deserve much better friends, the girls you lived with sound like bullies. Did you find a new place to live the following year?