I'm certainly not disregarding nics pain and hurt and the awful situation she is going through, and also how hard she works for this site. I am just saying I think she got confused when Jane was actually saying look, nic doesn't need another argument to sort out, she took it as we don't have the right to speak. I don't think it was callous and I don't see why every one is thinking that, can please some one explain what I'm missing - and please understand I'm being genuine not sarcastic, I must not be reading things properly. Sorry if I have caused offence to every one, I hope I've communicated my appreciation and support for Nic and especially this site, I will always stand up for No More Panic!