I don't know what to do anymore about trying to move forward with my life as I always end up back in the same place. I have almost no confidence, very low self esteem and am very lonely. I struggle to find friends online and have little option of meeting people when I'm out since I have a severe social phobia. Following a very upsetting experience recently I'm now resigned to thinking that I'll never find love and have given up.
All I want to do now is try to get through each day as best as I can without any more heartache and depressing, intrusive thoughts, most of which come about due to some memory and association my brain makes.
I've always had a very good memory and sometimes it causes great upset. I think of it almost like Google or similar search engines! I only have ro hear someone say a word or have my other senses aroused and suddenly I'm taken back to something that has nothing to do with the current situation. I went through a time of embracing my ability to remember things but now I absolutely hate it. The memories affect me emotionally a lot of the time due to me being so sensitive. Sometimes I get angry, sometimes very upset but usually end up dwelling on whatever has just entered my mind.
I'm not on any tablets now and am reluctant to see a doctor as they've never done much for me. I've already been through the process of seeing counsellors, therapists, psychiatrists etc so don't really want to go through that again (though i's not helped that those I saw were never particularly good or helpful).
If it wasn't for all the sad and bitter memories I have I might still have a few friends left. I've recently realised that maybe my compulsion to talk about the past and people who bullied me, used me etc has put people off me (though it could be for other reasons). Which has led me to think that the memories and dwelling on them, reopening old wounds etc are my real problem. I've never truly been able to let go of anything and if there was some way I could then maybe I would be happier within myself and look forward to doing more with my life.
The last few weeks have been the worst I've been through in a very long time. With few people to talk to, I've constantly analysed things I might have said to people or that they said and gone over and over them in my mind trying to search for logical answers and find reasons for things that have maybe been misunderstandings. But I've got nowhere and am just completely stuck in a rut wishing I could clear all the bad stuff out of my head and start again.