Hi Tiger,
I wanted to firstly start by saying well done to each and every person on this thread who has been experiencing the same, or similar intrusive thoughts because I know how scary they can be first hand as I've been having them since January of this year.
At first, I didn't even know what was happening to me. I had confessed to my boyfriend that I had flirted with another guy and sent pictures of myself to him, which I had done. My boyfriend wasn't happy with me at all and asked me if I'd cheated on him, I answered no because I hadn't. I thought that would be enough, it then began with "what if I cheated on him and can't remember?" So I pursued to text the guy and asked if anything had happened between us, he said no, which I felt okay about but still didn't feel 100% certain on it. It escalated to me texting him, calling him, messaging him online to get more and more reassurance of the same damn thing that nothing had ever happened and he began to get very angry with me and advised that if I didn't stop contacting him, he would get the police involved because of how I am.
Then, one morning when I was changing my boyfriends niece I had a HORRIBLE intrusive thought of me touching her inappropriately. This absolutely horrified me and because my anxiety was heightened and my boyfriend asked if it had happened, this drove me insane to the point where I literally convinced myself "it must have happened, but I must have forgotten" although even now, I remember the smells, what I was wearing, what she was wearing the lot and it drove me round the bend! I spent days, weeks and near on 2 months analyzing this and driving myself mad because I honestly thought I must had forgotten - I was even going to take a lie detector test to prove to myself that it didn't happen which would have cost me £500 but I was so prepared to do it!
Even now, every day I wake up with that horrible "what if?" in my head and the whole "you did it but you forgot Becky" when I know that the the thoughts I have are COMPLETELY insane and irrational. Anxiety likes to pick up on your worst nightmare and put them into reality by making you FEEL you are actually that person when you know you are not. It picks on you, it picks on everything you hate and makes you dwell on it thinking that you ARE that person...
Well, let me tell you. YOU ARE NOT. The anxiety that you're experiencing, accompanied by the thought are making you think that you are. Put it this way, remember a time before all of this happened and what you were like, as stated before, you were happy go lucky and you were looking forward to the future and just a generally happy guy - then the anxiety kicked in and made you believe that you're a monster and that you enjoy being this way and that this is how you are.
Anxiety, is a big scary mind monster that likes to take over that part of your brain to make you believe that you're something that you're not. It's imagination, a part of human life and a BIG dollop of anxiety (the ULTIMATE doubting disease) all mixed in together.
You will be okay. I have a blog that may help you with your thoughts and will teach you new ways to challenge them. www.beckybowerenspiller.wordpress.com
If you need anymore advice then give me a shout and I'll be happy to help.
Take care,
Becky x