I've always had trouble getting close to men. I find myself shying away whenever someone gets too close. I'm fine with seeing people casually. but the minute it feels like it might be turning into a relationship, I slam the brakes on. My mind starts trying to talk me out of it and I'll start to pick faults with the guy as an excuse to end my involvement with him. I suffer from weird anxieties like I hate talking to someone up close because I'm paranoid about bad breath, or other times paranoid that I smell. I get tongue tied and can't think of the right words and I have problems with other people touching me if I don't know them well. So that all adds up to my mind screaming NO whenever the option of having a boyfriend arises. So anyway, I bumped into this guy I went to school with recently and he asked me out. i said yes because I know I have to try, but the closer it gets, the more anxious I am. I feel like there's a black cloud over my head. I worry about it before I fall asleep and as soon as I wake up. I can't shake it from my mind. I want so badly to make some excuse and call it off. But I've been doing that since I was in high school and I know I'll end up alone forever if I keep doing it. It's really starting to wear me down.
Is there anyone who felt this way but overcame it and ended up in a "normal" relationship? Is it better to explain all my issues to the guy once I get to know him, or just fight against them and hope I'll overcome it? I know it is possible to overcome things, because I've come a long way since all this anxiety started as a teenager, but I'm finding this last hurdle really hard.