Hi,
I had my first counselling session today, I had been referred after having CBT. I know its early days but I'm not sure it will help. She was really gentle and I felt comfortable with her but it felt like she was scared of saying too much in case she upset me or like she was treading softly.
I didn't really know what to say and she said I only get 6-8 so I'm not sure I will feel okay after so few sessions.
When I told her my mum had died when I was young, she said she could feel tears pricking the back of her eyes and that had touched her or upset her, not sure exactly how she worded it. I felt that was quite strange for her to say that at my first session, I know she may have been showing empathy or trying to make me open up more by saying something along the lines of 'what you just told me upset me how does it make you feel?' She seemed to focus on my mums death quite abit, but I don't really think I have any issues with it. I told her it didn't upset me at the time as I was too young, but missed her at different times like when I was a teenager, I mean I will always miss growing up without my mum but it isn't that causing my problems
Maybe it was just that I didn't give her that much to go on and she was clutching at the little information I did tell her. I did tell her that my mind had gone blank when I walked in the room.
I think I have been used to cbt were the therapist would tell me what we would talk about that day, but now its up to me what we talk about and what we don't talk about.
I think I just want someone to fix my life, to heal me, to make me not need approval, to give me self confidence and self esteem and to help me to accept me as I am. I feel as if I will be let down and then expected to just get on with the mess my life is on my own. I know I'm expecting a lot from her, but I left feeling downhearted.
Does anyone who has had counselling have any success stories or encouragment?
Thanks
Anna