Re: My boyfriend doesn't understand?
Okay, if you don't mind the inquiry, please describe the elements related to your OCD and whether it has been clinically diagnosed or alternatively your interpretation of the symptoms. Intrusive thoughts, or ruminations, are quite common within the context of clinical depression or anxiety features. Ruminations, however, do not necessarily constitute an obsessional quality merely because they are frequent or irrepressible.
Most persons with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder are not as disrupted in life by the obsessive component as they are the compulsivity which typically becomes predominant in order to suppress the unwanted obsessions. I merely make the point in order that consideration be given to what you're experiencing rather than what you have, if you see my point. Many patients dealing with disorders of this type will use diagnostic classifications to describe their symptom patterns, which if taken at face value can sometimes result in preconceived notions.
It is also not uncommon at all for family, friends and loved ones to exhibit frustration and even scrutiny when being confronted by discussions relating to disorders of this type because a common misconception is that such difficulties are under the influence and intervention of the sufferer to a far greater extent than actually exists. Consequently, it is felt that efforts are directed more to acceptance than defiance, which would relegate all those concerned to watching you suffer with no ability to help.
In such instances, those afflicted with the disorder must decide whether it is better to divulge the facts in terms of a disorder, or merely explain why they are not feeling their best, in this instance ruminative thoughts that are bothersome. People can far better relate to what you're feeling rather than what you have in the way of a disorder.
Lastly, I'd ask what health worries have you concerned to the extent that they are ruminative in nature?
Best regards,
Rutheford Rane, MD (ret.)
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