Hi all.
5 weeks ago I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. She is our 5th baby and from 4th pregnancy (one being twins). This was a huge deal for me as I had a homebirth after 3 c-sections. The whole focus throughout was this natural vaginal birth and it was what I wanted with all my heart and soul and now I wish I hadn't done it. This makes me feel so depressed I can't explain it.
The birth went to plan but was extremely painful as I'm sure many of you know. I had never felt contraction before and the whole thing lasted 2 days. I had been so looking forward to just going through labour. When she was born I tore quite badly. 2 small ones and 1 2nd degree tear that I declined to have stitched as it was so painful when they touched me. Its been 5 weeks and I'm still in pain. Some days it's better and then next day it hurts again. My husband says I've made progress but I can't see it!
I haven't left the house since before she was born. I'm scared I'll end up in so much pain I won't be able to get home. I can hardly walk without feeling discomfort and now I've started to feel light headed an my legs ache whenever I stand up. As soon as I get up I feel I can't breathe and just rush whatever I need to do so I can sit back down again. The best place for me Is laying down so I spend all my time in between doing things for the kids just laying ob the sofa. I'm getting sore on my bottom and thigh which I think is from staying in the same place for so long.
I have spent 5 weeks sitting on this same sofa and I'm sick of it but I can't change it. I can't talk to anyone else about it cos they'll want me to go to a doctor about the pain but I don't want anyone to touch me down there. And I'm thinking how much could be in my head? Because in not even trying anymore. I'm always in more pain the sadder I feel. Last week I was doing better and thought I was getting back to normal but I've gone backwards again and I don't know what's wrong with me.
I feel as if I'm being punished for having this birth how I wanted. I recovered so much quicker after the c-sections and was back to normal by now. I'm so sad I feel I want to end it all. I'm damaging my children and husband by being like this. What life am I giving them? I know I won't get any better and have told my husband to quit work to look after me cos I will be like this forever.
I'm sorry for the long rant! I'm hoping the act of writing will help a little. Thanks if you've read this far xx