Stag night stress

[phil06]

Despite cancelling it’s still been on my mind all in a loop. It seems with all my anxieties at the moment the thoughts stick around on a loop for days or weeks. I have felt bad about this and my ocd

How can I improve this?

[Suziewuzie]

By regularly practising CBT techniques & mindfulness.

[phil06]

I feel bad about this stag night sadly it’s in May but I’ve had a lacklustre response I have spent almost a grand on it anf hiring a Function room yet few people may come

I am also disappointed things turned sour with the ex footballer. It may have took some of the pressure off numbers showing. Sadly when I told the guests he was coming they were not impressed as many don’t like football.

How can I feel positive about this stag night?

[busterrufus]

Your friends and loved ones will be there and there will be entertainment by a singer and comedian. Sounds like a great night. Don't overthink it please, you dont want to make yourself even more anxious.

[nomorepanic]

We did tell you not to splash out on it all Phil but you chose not to listen.

Just keep it simple

[MyNameIsTerry]

Some will come just for the entertainment at many a do but they aren't real friends anyway so I wouldn't but any thought into that as it's more about status in social circles.

Ex player wanted to avoid tax and fees by the sounds of it. Better he doesn't get a gig then.

[KK77]

You need a slap upside your head with a wet fish, Phil!

Guests will come to your "stag" because of YOU, not some washed-out old has-been ex-footballer pfft.

As Nic says: Keep it simple!

EDIT: And save your money for honeymoon which you will BOTH enjoy

[phil06]

EDIT: And save your money for honeymoon which you will BOTH enjoy

I will be having a good honeymoon so that’s all sorted anyway

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Some will come just for the entertainment at many a do but they aren't real friends anyway so I wouldn't but any thought into that as it's more about status in social circles.

Ex player wanted to avoid tax and fees by the sounds of it. Better he doesn't get a gig then.

You are correct.

I mean I wouldn’t want him there now after what happened however I’m annoyed as I thought it was a great idea and it went sour and sadly there was nobody else was available so it wasn’t like I had other options plus the whole situation if demanding the cash put me off.

I got in touch with a photographer who also wanted cash upfront before the job this is another one I avoided as most people only want a deposit when they come to an event.

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Also I fear the lack lustre response from friends has been poor too

[pulisa]

Glad to hear that.

Whatever happened to a night out with friends at the pub for the stag do? Or am I showing my (advanced) age?

[Carys]

Well, if you are then I am too, a few good mates at the pub was what we did in my day.