So I got my ultrasound, the technician (if that is the correct term) was super friendly and understanding. She said there was nothing there that concerned her, and the nodes weren't even clinically enlarged. I said "but they feel huge, the doctor said they were enlarged, and I've never been able to feel them in my life until now." She said they might be bigger than they used to be due to infection, and may never go back to the size they were, but are not at a level that would need further investigation, and as they've been that size for 7 months they're unlikely to grow. It just irritates me that Dr Googles says nodes should 'never' be palpable! And that ultrasound and FNA are completely useless for lymphoma.
She laughed when I said about google, she said "don't use google you'll be diagnosing yourself with lymphoma and all sorts!" I'm sure that if lymphoma was a possibility she wouldn't make a joke about it!
And the 'hard lump' under my ear, she thinks it's my parotid gland. Of course now I've convinced myself it's a cancer or an HIV symptom (dr google saying salivary gland dysfunction is a symptom of HIV, which I'm worried I have, had a test 2 months post risky encounter - negative, haven't plucked up the courage to go back for another test yet).

Anyway she said to go back to my GP in a week's time for the official results and ask for an ENT referral. Fingers crossed the GP will give me one! I'll be glad to see a specialist after going back and forward to a GP for 7 months with a shrug of the shoulders and a recommandation of ibuprofen