Worried About money

[KeeKee]

My daughter seems indifferent. Her Dad has went to his parents many times before so to her it's just a normal part of how her childhood has always been. He is still acting 'normal' towards me too so I imagine we are just on a break as opposed to splitting permanently. He actually seems in a better mood too so that automatically puts me in a better mood.

No she doesn't have any friends outside of school. Her classmates don't live close by.

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It's hard but not caring or focusing in what others think is something I'm working towards

I also entirely agree with this. Constantly worrying what others think is making my life hell. Moreso in regards to my family as I know that I can't possibly guess what strangers say, but I know what kind of things my family say as I've been told and also witnessed things said about others. They are very judgemental.

I wish I didn't care what others thought. I constantly worry all the time. I babysit when I don't want to etc as I'm scared of what might happen if I keep saying no

[KatiePink]

I'm the same KeeKee and my partners the complete opposite, I do wish I didn't care as much as i do as I've spent so much time worrying what others think of everything, my job my partner the way I live my life choices I make ect, I love my family but it's my life and that's what I need to focus on.

No she doesn't have any friends outside of school. Her classmates don't live close by

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That's a shame really, are there any children she could befriend where you live?

[KeeKee]

I completely agree KatiePink. It seems that amongst all the judging and criticism I'm the only one who really cares what others think. Even when others get criticised as it obviously isn't just me, they really don't care. Why can't I be like that!!

There are only young boys around here and they play on the roads and swear etc. I don't want my daughter around children like that, my daughter has already told me these boys are the naughty ones at school and one is apparently a bully. The girls around here are only about 4 or 5 and way too young for my daughter to play with. I hate where I live and wish I could move to be honest. When I first moved here almost 9 years ago the street was actually renowned for it's roughness. Wish I'd known before I moved in haha.

[flipp]

Hi KeeKee.
I was bullied at school,that is why I left early,now I am not afraid of them.

And speaking of Money,I don't have any to worry about...

[KeeKee]

Hi KeeKee.
I was bullied at school,that is why I left early,now I am not afraid of them.

And speaking of Money,I don't have any to worry about...

Sorry to hear that flipp. I really don't like bullies even if they're children once a child surpasses 4 or 5, they know fine well what is or isn't acceptable. It must have been hell if it caused you to leave school early.

[KeeKee]

I went to the doctors to get my sick note today. It wasn't my usual doctor. He refused and gave me a note saying I may be fit for work.

I am not happy about this whatsoever, i know I am not able to work right now. No matter whether it's 'phased in' or 'amended hours'. I've also been told I'm not diagnosed with clinical depression when I said how depressed I've felt this past year. So he wouldn't even put depression on my form. I know how i feel and how I've felt for this past year or so. I feel severely depressed. Just because I'm not suicidal, it does not mean I feel less depressed than those who are.

I feel physically sick. I have £20 to last me 7 days, then in 7 days I'll have another £20 to last me another 7 days. The only help available is food vouchers. But it's not food i need. I need toilerries, i need new shoes I've got a pair of trainers and they're killing my foot. I need to be able to leave the house its not fair I can't even go into town as I have no money! I'm devastated and terrified now. If I can only claim JSA I will be sanctioned time after time as I won't even be able to attend the fortnightly appointments. I can't go to interviews, i won't be able to get a job. I really don't know what to do.

Up until about September last year I saw a workplace advisor through IAPT. They even told me I need to sort my issues out before I get a job and with her help I was then referred for further help which is how I am now doing CAT therapy.

[KatiePink]

I went to the doctors to get my sick note today. It wasn't my usual doctor. He refused and gave me a note saying I may be fit for work.

I am not happy about this whatsoever, i know I am not able to work right now. No matter whether it's 'phased in' or 'amended hours'. I've also been told I'm not diagnosed with clinical depression when I said how depressed I've felt this past year. So he wouldn't even put depression on my form. I know how i feel and how I've felt for this past year or so. I feel severely depressed. Just because I'm not suicidal, it does not mean I feel less depressed than those who are.

I feel physically sick. I have £20 to last me 7 days, then in 7 days I'll have another £20 to last me another 7 days. The only help available is food vouchers. But it's not food i need. I need toilerries, i need new shoes I've got a pair of trainers and they're killing my foot. I need to be able to leave the house its not fair I can't even go into town as I have no money! I'm devastated and terrified now. If I can only claim JSA I will be sanctioned time after time as I won't even be able to attend the fortnightly appointments. I can't go to interviews, i won't be able to get a job. I really don't know what to do.

Up until about September last year I saw a workplace advisor through IAPT. They even told me I need to sort my issues out before I get a job and with her help I was then referred for further help which is how I am now doing CAT therapy.

KeeKee I'm so sorry it seems like one thing after another for you lately.
What is it you've put a claim in for? As I know you can get emergency advance payments with universal credit/JSA but I'm not sure of Esa ect. They're has to be something for you, did you say you'd been to citizens advice?

You have a child so they're has to be some help for you until you get payments, £20 is not enough and nobody should be left to struggle like that.
Is it possible to ask to see another doctor?

[KeeKee]

Hi KatiePink, thank you for responding yet again :-)

It's ESA I've applied for.

I was told by my local council that I could ask ESA for an advanced payment of benefit or something and if they refuse I could apply for a food voucher, but to be honest I wouldn't even be able to go to a shop and pay with a voucher (I only go where there is self serve as i don't like socialising with anybody) plus my family wouldn't let me starve, food wise I'll survive if it's only for a few weeks as I have basics like pasta, rice, beans, I have a cupboard full of tins. It's things like bus fares, toiletries, i know bus fares aren't a necessity, but I can't walk places due to my anxiety and I don't really want to be stuck in the house for weeks, although I guess I may have no choice.

I did phone ESA today to enquire about the type of medical note I'd received and they said send it anyway as it may not affect my claim, and if it does she said I should go to my regular doctor and ask if he can backdate it to today.

A few other people have suggested I go back and speak to somebody else so i might just do that. This doctor was very young, I'd guess my age (27) and said he had to follow that procedure. So I guess his hands were tied.

I still feel awful though, I originally went on antidepressants years ago for depression, so to be told I've never been diagnosed with clinical depression even though I took antidepressants for 6 years under the assumption I had depression and feel the lowest I've ever felt right now was a shock to be honest. Anxiety is pretty new in my list of struggles (3 years, 5 months) and yet it would seem my primary issue is being completely ignored because of it. I might go back to the doctors and ask for an official diagnosis.

Thank you so much for always taking the time to reply to me.

[KatiePink]

Hi KatiePink, thank you for responding yet again :-)

It's ESA I've applied for.

I was told by my local council that I could ask ESA for an advanced payment of benefit or something and if they refuse I could apply for a food voucher, but to be honest I wouldn't even be able to go to a shop and pay with a voucher (I only go where there is self serve as i don't like socialising with anybody) plus my family wouldn't let me starve, food wise I'll survive if it's only for a few weeks as I have basics like pasta, rice, beans, I have a cupboard full of tins. It's things like bus fares, toiletries, i know bus fares aren't a necessity, but I can't walk places due to my anxiety and I don't really want to be stuck in the house for weeks, although I guess I may have no choice.

I did phone ESA today to enquire about the type of medical note I'd received and they said send it anyway as it may not affect my claim, and if it does she said I should go to my regular doctor and ask if he can backdate it to today.

A few other people have suggested I go back and speak to somebody else so i might just do that. This doctor was very young, I'd guess my age (27) and said he had to follow that procedure. So I guess his hands were tied.

I still feel awful though, I originally went on antidepressants years ago for depression, so to be told I've never been diagnosed with clinical depression even though I took antidepressants for 6 years under the assumption I had depression and feel the lowest I've ever felt right now was a shock to be honest. Anxiety is pretty new in my list of struggles (3 years, 5 months) and yet it would seem my primary issue is being completely ignored because of it. I might go back to the doctors and ask for an official diagnosis.

Thank you so much for always taking the time to reply to me.

Yes KeeKee i would definitely go back, and ask for an official diagnosis. Just the stress of it you don't need either.
I'm glad to hear you will be okay for food ect but I know how upsetting it can be when you feel complete stuck, these situations can make even the most positive people feel very low. It's absolutely dreadful having money worries on top of dealing with everything else. I really hope things get sorted for you and you can go from there one step at a time

Keep us updated if you get back in with docs xX

[KeeKee]

Yes KeeKee i would definitely go back, and ask for an official diagnosis. Just the stress of it you don't need either.
I'm glad to hear you will be okay for food ect but I know how upsetting it can be when you feel complete stuck, these situations can make even the most positive people feel very low. It's absolutely dreadful having money worries on top of dealing with everything else. I really hope things get sorted for you and you can go from there one step at a time

Keep us updated if you get back in with docs xX

I will do ;-)
Really appreciate your responses KatiePink on all of my threads.