I am heartbroken. Please help
I never thought i'd be writing this, my world has been flipped upside down and i feel so helpless.
I am pregnant with my first child, everything has been so amazing lately like a dream come true. 3 days ago my partner of 6 years who very much wanted this baby too, told me he wants to leave me and he can't do this anymore.
It seemingly came from nowhere, we had a little argument in the morning, nothing special and i certainly did not see any of this coming.
For anyone who knows me on here knows he has always been the level headed one, my absolute rock, always so positive and happy, i was so grateful to have someone who stuck by me through all of my troubles and comforted me with no complaints time after time after time. Now it seems, when we are on the cusp of a wonderful life together, it's all become too much. Here are a few things that he said when explaining to me that he wants to leave.
Don't doubt that i love you i would do anything for you and couldn't bare to see you hurt, but we're not in love are we?(Massive shock) Everything up until this moment from him said the opposite,
I feel anger instead of compassion when you need me,
You deserve better,
I have this rage inside me everyday and i just want to scream 'i want to be alone'
I could have carried on but i absolutely know this day will come,
When things are good i love my life here with you,
Those are just a few of the things mentioned, he has also said a few times since this discussion that he feels empty, numb, and hes scared of this.
We had a very emotional conversation and i didn't handle any of it well at all, i was an absolute wreck and just couldn't believe what was happening. He displayed a lot of emotion, i mean he basically broke down like i've never seen. I think he feels so guilty.
I considered that there could be another woman, which is hard to bare, i asked him straight and he said no that is not it i have never cheated on you. He goes to work and comes straight home so unless there is someone there at work who he has developed a liking to, but it's mainly a man's place of work. I cannot rule this out as a possibility because it all seems so sudden and doesn't make sense to me.
I know in my gut that he loves me, and i know he loves us, i looked back the last few months and there has been no signs of this whatsoever and i have very good intuition, i feel so stupid to have been so happy. He says he feels empty on the topic of our baby, which just crushes my heart!
I feel so alone in this, i don't want to pressure him at all and i've told him that i can see how things could have led to him being unhappy, he has dealt with a lot of crap from me with anxiety and has been nothing but loving and patient through it all, i've always told him that if he needed to talk i am here.
I can't imagine my life without him, and i know i need to think of myself and babies health but i can't help feeling this isn't him talking! Before i met him when he was in his late teens i do know he suffered from depression and was on medication for a short while, he drank a lot. When i met him he was OK and since then he's never drank and has never seemed to have a problem with depression. He does suppress his emotions i know that for sure, apart from being able to show me love, he struggles with sadness and anger.
I don't know if there is any hope for a future for us, but i would do anything, he is an amazing guy so for him to suggest leaving when i am pregnant something has gone terribly wrong.
I know this isn't a couples therapy site but i am just so down and needed to get this off my chest, I've gone from being elated to heartbroken, it physically hurts.
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