Page 3 of 6 FirstFirst 12345 ... LastLast
Results 21 to 30 of 59

Thread: is there a difference between suicidal thoughts and simply not wishing to carry on?

  1. #21
    Join Date
    Oct 2013
    Posts
    490

    Re: is there a difference between suicidal thoughts and simply not wishing to carry o

    Quote Originally Posted by debs71 View Post
    I truly empathise, Mark.

    I know exactly what you mean. When my depression is at its worst - and to be honest, many days inbetween - I have this thought of 'what is the point of life and carrying on?' Just had enough of it all. I have said on more than one occasion to my nearest and dearest ' What is the point of waking up in the morning? I wish I wouldn't'.....In saying that though, I would never take my own life as I could NEVER do that to my family. That is the predominant reason for me. I remember when I was very depressed once and my Dad telling me to not do anything 'silly' as it would kill him. That is incentive enough for me to just face the depression and carry on really.

    We can definitely feel bleak, feel like dropping off of the earth and feel nonchalant about death, but there is a VAST difference between that and actually instigating it.

    I hope it helps you to know that you are not alone in this.
    Quote Originally Posted by pulisa View Post
    Mark, life can certainly feel like a grim treadmill when you're depressed and feeling that everything is hopeless. Don't feel bad for admitting that you want out..but you want out of feeling like this and feeling disconnected to everyone else in the world around you, not out of life itself.

    Is there a family member you could contact, just to get in touch with and maybe to meet up with for some TLC and just general attention to your needs? You must feel very isolated and lonely and mornings can seem very long and endless as you work your way through them. How are you feeling now?
    Thank you so much for both your replies, I'm arranging to meet a friend tomorrow, but I (and he) is very nervous about it as the friendship is under some strain, it's giving me non stop panic as I think i'll end up losing either my best friend or my mind. I really am trying to remain positive, if that goes well then by this time tomorrow i might be calmer and have kept my friend. I don't like drama, he doesn't i don't think either, he is also feeling nervous about it. I'm just praying we can compromise and both be happy. I'm sat here shaking about it, it's pretty lame and maybe greedy but if i could have one wish right now it'd be that it goes well and we can both be happy. The flip side, a friendless world doesn't bare thinking about. I have my parents and they're both good to me but nothing beats a friend who wants to be around you without obligation.
    It really means a lot you've taken the time to reply to me.
    __________________
    comparison is the thief of joy

  2. #22
    Join Date
    Jun 2014
    Posts
    16,747

    Re: is there a difference between suicidal thoughts and simply not wishing to carry o

    Having a supportive, kind and empathetic friend is priceless, Mark. A friend who will stick by you regardless..With severe social anxiety friendships should be cherished because it's not easy to go out there and "meet people" just like that.

    Don't put pressure on yourself about tomorrow because you may be overthinking the situation. There is no need for "drama"-you are just meeting up because you are friends. Don't think about losing him-think about making the most of your time with him? And enjoying it?

  3. #23
    Join Date
    Oct 2013
    Posts
    490

    Re: is there a difference between suicidal thoughts and simply not wishing to carry o

    Quote Originally Posted by pulisa View Post
    Having a supportive, kind and empathetic friend is priceless, Mark. A friend who will stick by you regardless..With severe social anxiety friendships should be cherished because it's not easy to go out there and "meet people" just like that.

    Don't put pressure on yourself about tomorrow because you may be overthinking the situation. There is no need for "drama"-you are just meeting up because you are friends. Don't think about losing him-think about making the most of your time with him? And enjoying it?
    we've some thing to discuss unfortunately, it's a very delicate matter and one i hope he plans to handle as sensitively as I do, i guess even without social anxiety a lot of people would be tense :( I've spent a while crying about it, basically since posting that. I'm just in such a state. I know there's millions of people worse off than me, I'm grateful for anything i get, and i guess this is something just really need. Thanks Pulisa
    __________________
    comparison is the thief of joy

  4. #24
    Join Date
    Jun 2014
    Posts
    16,747

    Re: is there a difference between suicidal thoughts and simply not wishing to carry o

    Well it's something you are both aware needs to be discussed with sensitivity. You both have respect for each other's feelings so that's a solid base for a reasoned and productive exchange of views...but you are obviously going to be apprehensive about it as anyone would be.

    I'd just say try not to imagine the worst outcome? Neither of you will want this.

  5. #25
    Join Date
    Oct 2013
    Posts
    490

    Re: is there a difference between suicidal thoughts and simply not wishing to carry o

    Quote Originally Posted by pulisa View Post
    Well it's something you are both aware needs to be discussed with sensitivity. You both have respect for each other's feelings so that's a solid base for a reasoned and productive exchange of views...but you are obviously going to be apprehensive about it as anyone would be.

    I'd just say try not to imagine the worst outcome? Neither of you will want this.
    I'll do that, I'll read your reply if I feel otherwise and panic. Thank you so much because it's alleviated the feeling enough to eat my tea
    __________________
    comparison is the thief of joy

  6. #26
    Join Date
    Jun 2014
    Posts
    16,747

    Re: is there a difference between suicidal thoughts and simply not wishing to carry o

    I'm pleased if I've helped you just a little bit, Mark.

    All the very best for tomorrow..

  7. #27
    Join Date
    Feb 2016
    Posts
    559

    Re: is there a difference between suicidal thoughts and simply not wishing to carry o

    I hope everything goes well today Mark & you manage to feel some peace afterwards. I have had a rough couple of days too & really empathise with you.
    __________________
    She believed she could, so she did

  8. #28
    Join Date
    Oct 2013
    Posts
    490

    Re: is there a difference between suicidal thoughts and simply not wishing to carry o

    Quote Originally Posted by Suziewuzie View Post
    I hope everything goes well today Mark & you manage to feel some peace afterwards. I have had a rough couple of days too & really empathise with you.
    Suzie thank you so much for your positive thoughts. I am meeting him at about 10. I woke up at 5 having panic attacks and crying my eyes out Just in such a state, I can't lose him. I went a year of my life and only socialised once in over 12 months, and I'm so scared that i'll end up in that place again, I think i'll likely end up in therapy again anyway :(
    Please share what is happening with you Suzie, here or a msg or whatever if you want. I care about others and I hate thinking I look like I'm after everyones sympathy, we're all here to help each other.
    __________________
    comparison is the thief of joy

  9. #29
    Join Date
    Feb 2016
    Posts
    559

    Re: is there a difference between suicidal thoughts and simply not wishing to carry o

    Try to calm your anxiety before you go. You're going to feel nervous & tense, that's to be expected, but don't add horrible panic and anxiety into the mix. You're being so strong in dragging yourself out there to deal with this & whatever happens you WILL get through it, cope with it, and soon be back home - hopefully feeling calm and settled. I won't patronize you by saying "You're not going to lose him" because obviously I know nothing about what's happened, but he's your friend. Remember that. He's your friend and he obviously cares about you and is going to want to hurt you.
    __________________
    She believed she could, so she did

  10. #30
    Join Date
    Oct 2013
    Posts
    490

    Re: is there a difference between suicidal thoughts and simply not wishing to carry o

    Quote Originally Posted by Suziewuzie View Post
    Try to calm your anxiety before you go. You're going to feel nervous & tense, that's to be expected, but don't add horrible panic and anxiety into the mix. You're being so strong in dragging yourself out there to deal with this & whatever happens you WILL get through it, cope with it, and soon be back home - hopefully feeling calm and settled. I won't patronize you by saying "You're not going to lose him" because obviously I know nothing about what's happened, but he's your friend. Remember that. He's your friend and he obviously cares about you and is going to want to hurt you.
    I'm really trying, the tears have subsided a bit at least and I've even had a few walnuts and a drink. Just so much of my life depends on this it's unbearable, though I must admit that typo on your last sentence did make me smile..at least I hope it's a typo! I'm not one for huge outbursts of emotion, it's like the seal is broken and it's all just pouring out under the pressure, I'm very shivery and stressed but maybe when I post here next i'll have good news, I fear the worst, but I guess I always do.
    __________________
    comparison is the thief of joy

Page 3 of 6 FirstFirst 12345 ... LastLast

Thread Information

Users Browsing this Thread

There are currently 1 users browsing this thread. (0 members and 1 guests)

Similar Threads

  1. Difference between suicidal OCD and being really suicidal?
    By mismashful2 in forum OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)
    Replies: 3
    Last Post: 06-03-17, 04:29
  2. suicidal thoughts?
    By A Nervous Nigel in forum Depression from Panic/Anxiety
    Replies: 20
    Last Post: 31-12-14, 14:07
  3. suicidal thoughts
    By R.Barratt in forum Depression from Panic/Anxiety
    Replies: 8
    Last Post: 27-02-13, 12:38
  4. I really need help, suicidal thoughts
    By emsie in forum General Anxiety / Generalised anxiety disorder (GAD)
    Replies: 3
    Last Post: 03-04-12, 18:35
  5. Suicidal thoughts
    By keta in forum Citalopram / Celexa
    Replies: 7
    Last Post: 06-07-10, 16:48

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •