Thanks everyone for replying.

I do tend to expect a lot from myself and I do feel like a failure, since reading the replies I have tried a little less harder and it seems to be working, I get really stressed out if things are not where they should be, if the house gets in a mess (Which of course it does with 2 children) then I get so worked up about it and can't deal with.

So I am trying to take little steps at a time and just realise that things will not always be what I want them to be, it is helping.

As for my periods the Dr wants me to think about have the Mirena coil fitted as that may stop my periods but i'm not sure about it, my husband had the snip so its not for contraception, just for my periods and moods, I just don't know how best to deal with it but I am going to try my best to find a way.

Thanks again
Carrie