Re: Booze/porn addiction(?) - depressing
you have established a pattern, i.e. parents do the ironing/house work/cooking etc. So when they go away it's no surprise that you don't fill the void. You've trained yourself to behave in that way. That's not a bad thing, it's just the way the conditioning is at this time. You can't really judge yourself based on short times when your parents are away. It's not enough time to set down and establish new behaviour patterns. If they were away for longer, weeks or months, you would soon adapt and change the way you approach these things. You would establish new patterns of behaviour.
In regards to the porn, it's not so bizarre or 'disgusting'. I'm sure there are plenty of these videos, forums, etc online which is a reflection of their popularity. the second point I want to say is that we are drawn to these things because there is something or some part of us that wants to explore these things. It's not that someone has 'wrong' or wierd desires, or that it means they are bad or evil or disgusting, etc. That's just a judgement you have based on your cultural conditioning. Your mind wants to explore. I'm serious when I say this....watch some it think about it, immerse yourself in it when you do, and use some midfulness or awareness to just benignly explore your underlying thoughts, emotions, and feelings about it. This type of approach can work for most things (even anxiety!) because when you put your undivided attention on something, background feelings can just dissolve all on their own.
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