Hi Karen

What i think Alice and everyone is saying is that when you are down it is easy to miss the obvious and at times it needs to be said....i call it my kick up the arse when people point out to me things i should be told.
I hate to use the words"you have to be cruel to be kind" [V] but it is because people care that they have to speak the truth at times or you just live in deception and that is never an answer but a prison :( it is better to face truth and find happyness from that foundation stone than to be forever stuck in self deception that leads to misery and dispair [B)]

You can do better than what you think