Re: passing anxiety on to kids
I think it's normal as parents to worry about our children ever suffering. I know I worry about it. My lest is almost 12 and he developed anxiety about 3 years ago, out of the blue he changed and was extremely protective of his family and pets, he worried constantly one of us would get hurt. It was sad to see. I took him to our GP who knows us well and he said it eats not my fault at all. At the time I wasn't really struggling. With any anxiety, I'm a born worrier but my anxiety wasn't a huge issue back then. He said that it wade to a trauma, my brother has mental health problems and he came to our house, hit my husband infront of our son which terrified him. Of course though I felt guilty, I should have made sure he was hidden away upstairs so he didn't see this happen, I shouldn't have let my husband go outside to ask my brother to leave .....
I had agoraphobia all last year after my brother attacked me, I have worried myself sick that my children might pick up on it and get anxious about shops or going out. I've realised no amount if worrying will prevent it, I just now do my best to go out and. It let it stop me and if I'm having a day where I struggle I make sure they're not aware of it and just make an excuse about why I can't go somewhere but they go with their dad. I thinks it's a hard illness to hide away from them, but we do our best to remain upbeat so that they so t pick up on our anxieties. It's what I've had to do for the last year as I didn't want it to imoact their childhood.
My children are so outgoing and confident, I was so shy as a child and struggled. I love seeing how confident they are, seeing them do their concerts, sports.... It's great.
Don't worry, all you can do is if you ever notice your child is suffering from anxiety is take the to your GP for some help. You're doing a great job, don't worry about what ifs, enjoy your children and don't worry what the future may hold.
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