Re: Maybe Our Culture is partially to blame?
Originally Posted by
Lencoboy
In fact, many children and vulnerable adults have almost always been on the receiving end of 'victim-blaming' and being told the same old same old excuses time and time again, such as 'they were probably asking for it', 'they probably pushed their parents/carers/partners/spouses/siblings to it', 'a bloody good hiding never did past generations any harm', etc.
The fault lies with the abuser. It's their issues and shortcomings which cause them to abuse other people.
I didn't 'push' anybody to abuse me. Nor did I 'ask for it'.
But the authorities will still no doubt always be more than willing to gleefully woe betide us Auties for stimming and having meltdowns in public, issue us with ASBOs and put the fear of God into us with endless lectures about 'zero tolerance' and generally treat us like we're the bane of their lives, while still often ignoring the 'real' menaces to society and repeatedly letting them off scot-free!
An autistic meltdown is loss of control due to extreme distress. The last thing a distressed autistic needs is to be screamed at, handcuffed, and thrown into the back of a police car, but if the autism training isn't there, then the understanding won't be there.
Supporting autistic people in police custody (autism.org.uk)
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