Hi everyone.
My eldest son is 15 (16 in May). As I am writing this he is still in his bed, he is the same every morning. I get up at 7.30am every morning and from that time I am waking him every 10 minutes. I leave the house at 8.40am to take my youngest boy to school, Ryan is still in bed when I get home at 9.05am, and as I say he is still up there now at at 9.50am. Yesterday he didn't go to school at all and so far the other days of the week he has been late by at least 2 hours, problem with that is he gets an absent mark.
My other problem is that the more I wake him the more aggressive he gets, he shouts at me and starts banging doors, kicking and punching walls ect ect. To be honest he scares me when he is like that, he is a lot bigger than me, I would like to think he wouldn't hit me but the threat is there all the same.
I'm worried because he is leaving school in May and he is the middle of doing his exams, he's going to wreck his chances at this rate, plus what happens when he goes to college or gets a job, he won't be able to hold it down, but there is no telling him.
I am also working so often I have to leave for work as soon as I have taken my youngest to school so there is no-one to keep waking him. I am also getting letters from school regarding his attendence and every day I get texts telling me he is late or adsent and they want me to answer the text with a reason, but I just don't know what to say so I don't answer them. We have had social services in and out of our lives because of my own mental health issues and I just want this to stop because I don't want them involved again. I'm worried school will send the educational welfare or a social worker...or even the police, and I will end up paying a fine or going to prison. Ryan is also aware of these consequences but again, there is no telling him.
He does suffer with some minor mental health issues himself and I had him referred to a child psychologist, he completed a course of CBT but he seems just the same, even though he said his anxiety has improved. I don't know what else to do, I'm so nice to him in the mornings but he is just horrible and sometimes he cries!
Can anyone help?