kendo59
29-09-08, 14:00
Since my breakdown, I find it extremely difficult to process a lot of information at once, so keeping the conversation simple and to-the-point is more condusive to getting things understood.
Remember that telly program, The Generation Game, where at the end the winner had to remember as many things on the conveyor belt as possible? Well, that's how I feel when chatting to people, particularly 'er indoors.
I can cope with short to-and-fro chats, but when she rambles on for 10 mins, I end up forgetting what she was saying.
For example; "Do you want a cup of tea?" requires a simple "yes" or "no" answer, right? So when I ask 'er indoors that question, and she twitters on for 10 mins, I then forget whether she wants or cuppa or not, which makes me feel stressed, frustrated & irritable, I end up snapping at her, and we end up arguing and feeling miserable.
When I ask 'er indoors a simple question, and she tends to natter on, wander off-topic & ramble on for 10 mins, I feel overwhelmed at the barrage of noise/information, it frustrates me a lot and I become very stressed & irritated at the off-topic chatter (yeah I know to 'ordinary people' this is called 'conversation'), and I feel like screaming "JUST ANSWER THE FLAMIN' QUESTION, YES OR NO!!!"...... which end up making us both upset.
Does anyone else find their attention-span & ability to deal with listening to & processing lengthy one-sided conversations has been affected by their anxiety?
Remember that telly program, The Generation Game, where at the end the winner had to remember as many things on the conveyor belt as possible? Well, that's how I feel when chatting to people, particularly 'er indoors.
I can cope with short to-and-fro chats, but when she rambles on for 10 mins, I end up forgetting what she was saying.
For example; "Do you want a cup of tea?" requires a simple "yes" or "no" answer, right? So when I ask 'er indoors that question, and she twitters on for 10 mins, I then forget whether she wants or cuppa or not, which makes me feel stressed, frustrated & irritable, I end up snapping at her, and we end up arguing and feeling miserable.
When I ask 'er indoors a simple question, and she tends to natter on, wander off-topic & ramble on for 10 mins, I feel overwhelmed at the barrage of noise/information, it frustrates me a lot and I become very stressed & irritated at the off-topic chatter (yeah I know to 'ordinary people' this is called 'conversation'), and I feel like screaming "JUST ANSWER THE FLAMIN' QUESTION, YES OR NO!!!"...... which end up making us both upset.
Does anyone else find their attention-span & ability to deal with listening to & processing lengthy one-sided conversations has been affected by their anxiety?