Re: I am scared of sex :(
It's important for women to have a yearly gynecological examination although pap smears/HPV need only be done every 3 years. If you know that your smear is good and that there are no other gynecological issues, then overcoming the fear of sex (or rather bleeding after sex) could be the perfect opportunity to over come your fears with logic. It's a process of elimination and has nothing to do with cancer but overcoming your fears of it.
If there is some spotting with sex then it is likely to be due to fragile vaginal tissues, which can happen as women age. A check by your Dr can reveal this and can be overcome by using an estrogen based cream eg. Ovestin. If you are stressed then the muscles will tighten and you could get some fissuring of the posterior fourchette, the solution is also estrogen cream which can be used externally as well as internally.
There are also other benign conditions that can cause spotting after sex, cervicitis, cervical erosion and occasionally hormonal issues. These can also be detected though examination and blood tests (for hormonal issues).
Of course (as BlueIris pointed out) there are other options, which work but won't help you overcome your fear of bleeding after sex and cancer.
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