Fear of being on my own for the rest of my life (:

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I did laugh that you asked what platitude means , I thought the same thing dammed state education maybe I should have listened in school , my neighbour is 90 she's never married and lived alone since her parents died many years ago , she's had one life long freind who is now in a care home with dementia but she has always been happy in her own company and very positive, she used to go away on cruises and trips to London to posh hotels , she doesn't have the stresses of family life , believe me family life can be hard and feel just as lonely ( alone with everyone ) .
You know sometimes you try so hard for something you end up pushing it further out of reach , you seem like a good man so just keep on hanging in there and keep getting out and about the more people you meet the higher the odds of finding someone you click with .Take care

That's ok Buster I genuinely didn't know the meaning of the word! Sure I don't mind some time on my own, but I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life, not after a relationship, had a few of those and they are too complicated for me so good friends is a great option Yes I do try too hard but that's the fighter in me. Well thank you Buster Iam a good guy (look at me blowing my own trumpet lol) just lost his way at the moment ATB

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What's google ? I'll have to bing it

You know Google is a no,no Buster LOL ATB

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I am alone,might have something too do with my tattoos and foul language,but that's me folks.

At the moment I love my life and the freedom to do what I want.

That's fine Lola-Lee and I doubt that's the reasons why you are on your own We are primarily social animals but sometimes, somethings go wrong (through no fault of our own) and we end up alone. Can I ask if you are married? And I bet you do have friends too ATB

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Hi there,

I don't know your age but never give up that you may find a kindred spirit.
Like others have said, it can happen later in life too.

Many of us married young (in our twenties) and had bad marriages, which we ended. So you are then on your own, even if you have children, it's not the same as having a loving companion.

I persevered with a verbally abusive marriage for 15 years before ending it (I was 39). Over the ensuing years I had a few boyfriends but none I lived with.

At 56 I met my lovely partner (the love of my life) and after 4 years we set up home. It's great, I'm so blessed to have found him, I'm 61 and he's 64.

So I was on my own for 19 years before my partner moved in with me

ps. I met my partner on an online dating site. It's a local New Zealand site so you can select from different cities and areas within that city. I have other friends my age who've had success with online dating as well. Well worth a try

Hi Thanks for your reply Not really looking for a relationship like I previously said they can be complicated but you story is inspirational 19 years is a long time to suffer. Happy to make new friends to share my hobbies and interests, but when I get home that's it, it's my space just for me ATB

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Dave I know that you do not like group meetings but I really do feel that through them you stand the best chance of meeting friends.

It is asking a lot of anyone to engage in a one to one meeting as a first off and it could be too intense for a number of people.

Are you still going out an about to places where you are likely to meet people who you can start up a casual conversation with?

Do you have a local pub?

The only way to meet people is to get out and among them, as someone else has said the more people you meet the better your chances of meeting the right person.

Hi Elen yes I understand that, A lot of disappointment has stemmed from the Meet Up section here (which is no longer used that much,) it did bring me hope at first but not now and it's false sense of security to me now (: Well recently I did look at a meet up.com group for anxiety/depression quite local to me, and once logged the group you can message members that have joined the group so messaged one person who actually lives in the same town as me and we have already met locally for a drink and we have since made arrangements to go out again So baby steps for now I think!! Thank you all so far for your comments folks ATB