Re: Work-related stress
So sorry to hear what you are going through and can empathise completley
I have been through something very similar (I work in FE). The fact that you have a supportive union rep will help but it is a daunting thought. Actually I really don't know how I made it to my first formal meeting...well I do, with a little help from some diazepam and a very supportive colleague. But I must say this...the thought is sometimes worse than the actual deed and your employer must treat you with a duty of care so I really think they are not going to mess up now - assuming they know your circumstances.
If you really cannot face the thought, ask your GP for a letter stating that you are not well enough to attend and your psychological well being may suffer as a result. They may go ahead without you present but you can supply any information or points you wish to be considered at the meeting in writing.
Unfortunately, there is no easy way. Your inner strength may surprise you...and it would really be useful for you to attend if you can.
I am taking the legal route...it's very tough and long drawn out but I really felt I had no choice. And I still don't know if I am strong enough to face it when it comes. That is the chance I had to take...but I know I will get through it and so will you.
One way or the other something will happen but you cannot go forward with this on your shoulders, the anticipatory anxiety and rumination will only make you worse.
I hope that you find the strength and courage to move forward in the right direction. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone. I wish you the very best of luck and hope that you make the right decision for you.
Kitti
---------- Post added at 11:42 ---------- Previous post was at 11:37 ----------
Just a quick note...I assume you know that you are covered under the Equalities Act?
__________________
"Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn"