CBT update

[nomorepanic]

You are going round in circles with this Phil.

Why don't you just shut social media down, shut NMP down and sit and talk to your wife.

[phil06]

You are going round in circles with this Phil.

Why don't you just shut social media down, shut NMP down and sit and talk to your wife.

I agree we are going round in circles however closing things down would mean I have a much reduced contact with family and friends I use this as a vital tool to stay in touch with family. And also the forum is a useful tool for when I need support so closing this down would make my situation more limited and worse.

[pulisa]

I agree we are going round in circles however closing things down would mean I have a much reduced contact with family and friends I use this as a vital tool to stay in touch with family. And also the forum is a useful tool for when I need support so closing this down would make my situation more limited and worse.

But you never take any notice of what people suggest? "Support" to you only means an audience for you to write about your worries and to ruminate at length which really is counter-productive. Actually talking to your wife and communicating with her and not AT her is what you need.

[Carys]

I would like to know - why is your wife tainted as you were talking to other women on a dating site ? WHy aren't YOU tainted.

I entirely agree with Pulisa Phil.

[BlueIris]

Thirded. No advice offered here seems to help, and the fact you view the person you voluntarily picked to be your life partner as tainted makes for very uncomfortable reading.

[phil06]

But you never take any notice of what people suggest? "Support" to you only means an audience for you to write about your worries and to ruminate at length which really is counter-productive. Actually talking to your wife and communicating with her and not AT her is what you need.

What makes you think I don’t talk to my wife? You do realise she doesn’t suffer anxiety so for people who don’t have it often don’t understand much about it.

[phil06]

I would like to know - why is your wife tainted as you were talking to other women on a dating site ? WHy aren't YOU tainted.

I entirely agree with Pulisa Phil.

She is tainted because I worry the rubbish I told the person a year ago she believed it was real and it wasn’t somebody I really liked so I worry it makes the relationship tainted

[phil06]

Thirded. No advice offered here seems to help, and the fact you view the person you voluntarily picked to be your life partner as tainted makes for very uncomfortable reading.

Yes but I made things tainted it wouldn’t matter who I married if I had done similar they would also be tainted. I don’t mean it in a nasty way it may seem this way but in my head I view it was tainted. I mean I just cancelled the friend request for a 2nd time this is the nature of the anxiety and ocd. Today at work I put a product out in plastic wrapping and had to unwrap it from the shrink wrapper as I also felt it would be spoiled this is where I am with my ocd today

[pulisa]

Why aren't YOU tainted, Phil?

[nomorepanic]

You could try talking to your family in real life not on social media and nothing we say on here ever helps so why not take some time out and do some self help courses