Re: Could really do with some help and advice 😞
Originally Posted by
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It doesn’t help that everything I read says about how important it is for mum and baby to be “relaxed” but my anxiety has been awful this year already and even when going to scans I feel a normal level of anxiety about the baby which now results in shaking and feeling sick because of how bad the anxiety has got physically this year!
Congratulations and all that.
I've heaved out two babies and had one removed via C Section. I was 17 with my first, and VERY anxious, but in the end gas and air was my friend, also pethidine. I nodded off at one point and came around to my husband wolfing a Mars Bar and George Michael's 'Father Figure' on the radio - which was sort of apt. In my experience, the anxiety of the unknown was far worse than the reality. I was in various states of coherency because it was a long labour but it was all worth it when the little dude was placed in my arms.
Son number 2 was much quicker (thanks to my mother's Sunday lunch with sprouts and cabbage) and I think I only had a couple of paracetamol before he was making an appearance, and I was on the good drugs with the C Section.
Top tip - breathing slowly and deeply really does help.
Also, swearing at husband/partner helps no end...
I try to think logically and think no one I know has had anything terrible happen to them and it’s what women’s bodies were designed to do, but in the back of my mind this just means I’ll be that person it happens to.
It's nature. This is what your body is designed to do and it would do it without medical intervention. Once labour starts, you will probably find that your anxiety eases but the midwives are awesome and they will help you every step of the way.
If you have to have a section, it's very quick and it just means that recovery is a bit longer than the vaginal birth -which you can use to your advantage to have people doing all the housework.
You're going to be ok lovely. X
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