Re: Fear of smart phones - upgrading because I need music
Sounds as if your best bet would be to find a really helpful person in a local mobile phone shop.
Most sounds can be stopped/muted and if you could find the right person to help with that and who was empathetic enough to realise the importance, I am SURE they would do everything they could to advise you and then help you set up the phone. I could think of exactly the people in my local area (Chesterfield) but if that's nowhere near you then do a bit of research, look at little local shops. Many are run by people who might happen to have friends who've got issues (it's quite common to know someone with ASD for example, and so be empathetic).
Do let us know how it goes!
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