Re: Struggling
Originally Posted by
Buster70
it means there are just the two of us bouncing off each other and I can’t do right for doing wrong , I know she is so scared and I wish I could do something to make it right but I just seem to make her angry.
This is just something you have to get through as best you can B. Your Mrs is understandably stressed off her tits (scuse the pun) and she's obviously on a very short fuse which means you & the 'eggshell' scenario. Try and diffuse situations before they kick off? Just ask her what she needs you to do? And that might be for you to give her some space? I find my husband highly irritating when I'm not well. He means well but always ends up saying totally the wrong thing and that's because he doesn't understand my situation and cannot empathise. In the absence of what I need from him emotionally, I need him to look after our son, make me cups of tea etc, and he does this really well and without complaint and I am grateful for this support..
When possible, go for a walk in the fresh air and clear your mind a little. Nature calms us and that's a scientific fact right there! Encourage your Mrs to get out too because it will do her more good than sitting there dwelling on a future that's she's fearfully imagining. Expect that walking with someone who is severely stressed isn't going to be easy but the very act of walking and taking in fresh air will help on a biological level as well as mental and emotional. Autumn is a great time to get out there because it's nature at her very best. Maybe find a nice pub with a log fire to sit and have a cup of tea or coffee in? The past is gone. There's nowt we can do to change any crap that's been and gone. And the future is unknown (for all of us) but the here and now is where we get to choose our response and live and the things is that life doesn't have to be perfect and the planets all in alignment for us to experience happy moments or joyfulness. We just have to create the opportunities..
You're doing better than you think you are B..
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