Ladybelle
That's exactly what's been going on with me, I was told by a doctor a few weeks ago that my "spaced out" feelings were down to anxiety (I never actually mentioned a possible hormone problem at the time) but I believe my hormones have been screwed up for quite some time and have CAUSED my anxiety because I don't wanna be feeling like this, I want to feel great and I look forward to feeling better.
I think that the doc saw me as an anxious "type", but I'm not in general, I've kinda just hit a bloody awful bad patch and have kind of been stewing in it for months partly because no one suggested it might be my hormones and partly because it's just kinda hard to tell whether it is your hormones causing all these terrible feelings. Why don't docs check peoples hormones more readily? I've had to put 2 and 2 together myself.
As for the docs not giving you a blood test to check your hormones, that really isn't on!
I don't know what you've said to them already but maybe just be really to the point and specifically say that you would like a blood test to check your hormones as you have all of the symptoms. Plus hormones are pretty damn important! They shouldn't just cast the possability aside!
Have a look here for info on hormones and there's advice on supplements to help with treating the root cause rather than just treating the symptoms with drugs from the doctor:
http://www.marilynglenville.com/general/index.htm
I absolutely identify with what you say about not knowing whether it's your hormones causing these feelings or not and I think, like me, you have been left to stew in these nasty feelings and that does an awful lot of damage, mentally. You need an answer to your hormonal question because not knowing makes things ten times worse!