Originally Posted by
Carys
Goodness me - I don't know him, but from what you are saying I think you have no chance he will change. He has some very strong and strange attitudes, not just about children in general, but about your happiness and wellbeing. You could be carrying his child, and if I was you I'd be shocked to the core at his lack of support and his very concerning attitudes. I would not even consider that he is 'settling down with material' - can you see a future with a man who is saying things like this and wants an entirely different future to you?
Having a baby and raising a child is tough, if you do it right, and it puts pressure on even the strongest of partnerships. I think that even if he had some sort of leopard-like change of heart that it would last all of a few days before he was pressuring you feeling jealous of the baby, and theres a pretty good chance he would walk out. He is making you choose between him and carrying his baby (ok, so you might not be pregnant but you also might be!), what a complete $£*!") He sounds controlling, unsupportive, critical and as if he is trying to damage you emotionally. This isn't nice to read at all. :(
I think you need to go with your gut feeling about this situation - even if you aren't pregnant, how can you feel right about being with him after all he has said ?